Gov. Sanford’s Wife Breaks Tradition, Not Standing By Her Man.
From the article at FoxNews:
Unlike other political wives, “she is laying down conditions at the outset and being very specific and emphatic that he’s got to toe the line…The other wives sort of stood there like submissive somehow. She didn’t take that approach. She said, `I love him. I want him back. But it depends on him.’ She’s holding the cards.”
— Donald Aiesi, political scientist at Furman University in Greenville, SC, the governor’s alma mater.
What do you think? Is Mrs. Sanford doing the right thing?
My husband was fed up. He said Sanford, when making his apology, apologized to his wife and family, and to “my sweet lover.”
*I* wouldn’t take a man back when he’s still talking like that, that’s for sure. I hope he wakes up to what an idiot he’s been, but apparently it isn’t yet.
Interesting how Bill Clinton got away with this kind of thing many times over, but Edwards, and now this guy, and others, are having their feet held (rightfully so) to the fire.
Mark Sanford left to go back to see his mistress after his wife said it had to end. I think she is right. He has to break the ties with the woman and then he can get right with his wife. He cannot have it both ways. This affair was more than just sex as noted by the emails between them. He is emotionally involved with her and must break his relationship to her before his marriage can be healed.
Governor Sanford should be thankful he isn’t married to Lorena Bobbitt.
She can decide what to do.
I’m just glad she didn’t feel like she had to be besides him as he told people where he was. I have always felt tremondously sorry for the political wives who stand next to their spouses as they talk about what they been doing. It has to be murder for them.
Yes, she is doing the right thing. She should keep the boundary between him and her until he has had sufficient counseling and has had a good amount of time in which he has demonstrated true repentance before she attempts reconciliation. She is setting a healthier pattern for spouses who have been cheated on than some others have. It is difficult to be in the public spotlight when there is adultery, but it is also an opportunity to help the public understand healthy ways of dealing with adultery.
I think Mrs. Sanford is doing the right thing.
Frankly, I was appalled to read today that while Gov. Sanford said that he wants to repair his marriage, he also calls his mistress his “soul mate.” Um, dude, if I were you’re wife and you were calling another woman your soul mate while saying that you would work on your marriage with me, well, that would be a bit of a deal breaker.
I think Gov. Sanford wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He wants to cherish the memory of this other “soul mate” woman, while still maintaining the marriage he thinks he should have. I don’t believe that’s possible.
I also think that this affair shows how dangerous emotional involvement can be. This affair was more than just sex. I wonder if Sanford is/was willing to look to his wife for the emotional fulfillment he needed? Who knows.
Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, is speaking out in a new statement about her husband’s affair.
“Mark showed a lack of judgment in his recent actions as governor. However, his far more egregious offenses were committed against God, the institutions of marriage and family, our boys and me,” Mrs. Sanford said in a statement. “Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions, and for the sake of our boys I leave the door open to it.”
Emily, I agree with you. His comments indicate he is miles away from any real repentance.